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Sexual Dream Meanings
What are Sexual Dreams?
One of the most common dream themes is about sex. From a clinical perspective, dream images of sexuality are rarely, if ever, expressions of “love.” To the body, sexuality is simply an aspect of the biological process of reproduction. In the unconscious—the origin of all dreams—sexual images and feelings signify a narcissistic need to be seen or to be noticed as a way to compensate for a deep fear of being abandoned or ignored.
It is very difficult to name just a few possible interpretations for this dream. It is so complex that interpretations vary with each dreamer and situation in the dream. A sexual dream may be about physical pleasure, but it may also be about power, control, manipulation, virility, and effectiveness. It may be a form of wish fulfillment or a memory, or compensation for a lack in daily life. In most cases, it is not a prediction of things to come in the near future.
Sexual meaning has long been a first path of inquiry in dream interpretation. This is due, in part, to the significant contributions of Sigmund Freud to the area of dream interpretation. However, interpreting the sexual content of dreams can be difficult. University studies reveal significant differences in how men and women dream about sex. However, when all is said and done, almost everyone is 'doing it' in dreamland. Sex during dreaming is reported as a topic of at least 12 per cent of male dreams and four per cent of female dreams. This discrepancy is generally consistent with our waking sex drives, with men doing much more thinking about the topic than women. (It is said that men think about sex far more than 12 per cent of their waking lives, though.) In his book Finding the Meaning in Dreams, G. William Dumhoff reveals some interesting data about the manifestation of sex in dreams: Men - Participating 93%, Watching 7%, Women - Participating 68%, Watching 32%. These statistics indicate that women often separate themselves from what is going on in the dream sexually, whereas men see themselves as participants. This can be significant to understanding why it is more common for men - particularly boys - to have orgasms in the dream state than it is for women. It also reveals the conflict that many women feel about the good-girl/bad-girl taboo. Aside from overt sexual activities in dreams, the question of sexual images and symbols as they occur in dreams is important. Because sexuality is often cloaked in a heavy shroud of secrecy, either through childhood or throughout life, the subconscious is prone to represent sex in a variety of ways visually. Freud, in his theory of the sexually driven personality, contributed much to this line of thought. Source: iVillage, http://www.ivillage.co.uk. For some more clues, also see Genitals, Intercourse, People & Penis, Vagina, Homosexuality and Common Dreams
Dreaming about sex has many possible meanings, depending on the content, and sexuality itself is a complicated issue. The first, and perhaps most familiar, is a wet dream. Sigmund Freud believed that a snake or long objects in dreams represents a phallic symbol. In contrast, he thought that tubular dream symbols like a bowl or tunnel represents the vagina. Sex is pleasurable; the desire for sexual pleasure, according to Freud, is one of the oldest and most basic urges that all humans feel. (The desire for sexual pleasure begins in early infancy, according to Freud. But humans can't just have sex all the time. If we did, we'd never get any work done. So we have to sublimate most of our desires for sexual pleasure, and turn that sexual energy into something else--into writing a paper, for example, or into playing sports. Freud says that, without the sublimation of our sexual desires into more productive realms, there would be no civilization. According to Freud in his "The Interpretation of Dreams," sexual dreams are symbolic fulfillments of wishes that can't be fulfilled because they've been repressed. Often these erotic sex wishes can't even be expressed directly in consciousness, because they are forbidden, so they come out in dreams--but in strange ways, in ways that often hide or disguise the true wish behind the dream. Subordinating the pleasure principle to the reality principle is done through a psychological process Freud calls Sublimation, where you take desires that can't be fulfilled, or shouldn't be fulfilled, and turn their energy into something useful and productive. A typical Freudian example of this would the focus on sex.
Before we start the process of analyzing a sexual dream or dreams with symbols of genitals, we must consider the content and circumstances surrounding the dream. With a little common sense anybody may learn to interpret dreams of sexuality. Consider the following details in order to do a proper dream analysis:
1. Write down every detail you can remember about having sexual in your dream.
2. Ask yourself, “What are my sexual preferences?”
3. What does the sex dream remind you of in real life?
4. What where your sexual and feelings in general when you woke up?
5. Did you experience organism in this sex dream?
6. When dreamion about sex was there a prominence to a particular sex organ, oral sex, situation (see notes at bottom) or any other body part?
7. How many sex partners were involved?
8. Does having this sexual dream relate to real people or imaginary?
9. Does this dream require me to make a change or solve a problem?
10. Are there any colors in the sex dream?
11. Did I like or dislike the sexual partner/partners?
12. While having sex is there any violence, anger, sexual frustration or joy in this dream?
13. Was this just a wet dream that symbolizes a biological change only?
14. What do I like or dislike about the dream overall?
15. What your emotions surrounding this sexual dream?
16. What does this sexual dream remind me of?
17. Does this sex dream require action or what is the message?
18. What is the basic reason for dreaming about sex– to avoid – to confront or learn?
After analyzing all these dream details about having sex, also read our “How to Interpret Dreams” page. Remember that dreaming about sex is nothing to be ashamed of and that God has created it for a reason. Also read about our “Dream Symbols.” Lastly, use our Google search feature to find specific dream symbol definitions or sexual terms in your dream such as love, homosexuality, intercourse, sex, wet dream, nudity, naked, orgasm, Incest, ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, wife, husband, snake, incest, infidelity, penis, vagina, genital, rape, violence, jealousy, infidelity, cheating, anger or joy and any other terms you can relate to in the particular dream about sex.